Consider your daily routine as a complex recipe you're trying to perfect. Your job, family time, and writing are key ingredients, each contributing distinct flavors and textures.

Balancing these elements is akin to a chef adjusting spices and components, adding each in their right time to achieve a harmonious dish. Too much of one ingredient can overpower the others, while the right balance can result in a satisfying and fulfilling experience. The art of writing amidst life's demands is much like fine-tuning a signature dish until it's just right, blending work and family into a life that's rich and full of flavor.

Many people feel a deep sense of duty and responsibility to others, whether it’s to their family or to their coworkers. That desire to not let others down is to be applauded. But when it comes to making progress on personal dreams and passions, many of us feel indulgent, even guilty.

That’s when the “shoulds” snake out from the shadows and hiss in our ears.

Should-a Could-a!

Now consider being 95 years old—congratulations for living that long—and looking back on your life.

You kept a steady (but perhaps bland) job. You slowly rose up the ranks. You were one of the good ones. You got a 4% to 10% per year (though that failed to keep up with inflation). You saved up, put money into a 401K. You retired at age 75, but you never traveled around the world, because by that time you were too tired and you were worried that it would eat up too much of your retirement fund. You never wrote that novel. You put off finishing those screenplays.

Should-a Could-a indeed!

So, what you should do is avoid piling up a mountain of regret and go after your dreams.

“Fine,” you retort, “but how?”

Well, most of the writers you respect and love wrote their masterpieces WHILE they lived a normal life. At least many of their early works.

Here are five simple, yet powerful strategies to help you make constant progress and complete passion projects without ruining your family life or losing your shirt.

1. Early Hours or Late Owls: Finding Your Undisturbed Haven

Many successful writers have sworn by the quiet hours of the morning or the peaceful solitude of the night as their best times for writing. J.K. Rowling, for instance, famously wrote the early Harry Potter books in cafes while her baby daughter slept beside her. Whether you're an early riser or a night owl, carving out time when the household is asleep can provide uninterrupted focus, allowing your creativity to flow without the day's usual demands.

2. Micro-Writing Sessions: Leveraging Snippets of Time

You're likely adept at breaking down complex problems into manageable parts. Apply this same principle to your writing by embracing micro-writing sessions. Even 10 to 15-minute slots can add up over time. You could draft a short dialogue while dinner simmers or outline a scene during a lunch break. It's about making every moment count, turning what might seem like idle time into productive writing sessions.

For these micro-sessions, try dictating into your built-in smartphone voice memo app or other free app. Many apps have voice-to-text features, so now you can “write” well even if you think you are a horrid typist or a sloppy speller. Writing never sounded so good.

3. Family Inclusion: Merging Passions with Responsibilities

Incorporating your family into your writing process can create a supportive environment and help them understand your passion. This could be as simple as brainstorming ideas with them, which not only gives you fresh perspectives but also makes them feel involved. For younger children, setting a "quiet creative time" where everyone engages in their own creative projects can be both bonding and beneficial, promoting a culture of creativity within the household.

4. Setting Realistic Goals: The Art of Achievable Targets

With a spectrum of responsibilities, setting realistic writing goals is crucial. Rather than large, intimidating targets, focus on smaller, achievable ones that fit into your daily life. This could mean writing a single page a day or 500 words. Small victories accumulate over time and contribute to a larger success story, making the process less daunting and more rewarding.

Famous 20th-Century novelist and screenwriter Graham Greene had a particularly disciplined approach to writing, aiming for a consistent 500 words per day. This routine allowed him to maintain a steady output of work over his career, balancing his time between writing and other aspects of his life.

5. Sales is… [insert negative bias here]

The writer’s spirit is characterized by innovation, risk-taking, creativity, and the ability to adapt and overcome challenges in the pursuit of creating new works.

That’s essentially the definition of an entrepreneur.

But artists also often exhibit hypersensitivities. Empathy can be an artist’s superpower. It’s one way you can mentally stand in the shoes of others to craft scenes and stories replete with conflict and cathartic release.

But empathy can also be ruinous. Those gleaming facets of feeling can easily fracture into self-doubt and guilt.

That’s when your limiting beliefs and fears masquerade as psychological protectors, parts of you that mean well, but that go too damn far. Artistic exposure gets conflated with existential harm.

But when a critic judges your work harshly, you are not actually in mortal danger. Look closely. This tiger is an origami predator. It’s teeth and claws are made of paper which cannot rend or tear apart your artist’s eye.

Your Protector Part Doesn’t Know Kung Fu

Artists often express reservations about engaging with the business and sales aspects of their work. Here are five common safety statements that reflect such sentiments, but secretly keep you from making meaningful progress:

1. "I just want to focus on my art."

   • Many artists feel that the business side of things detracts from their creative process and prefer to concentrate solely on creating art.

   • How many news stories have you heard where actors or musicians handed over the financial reins to a crooked CPA or manager and lost all their wealth? The main conflict which drives the most recent Elvis movie IS this very topic.

2. "I'm not good at selling myself or my work."

   • This statement reflects a discomfort with self-promotion and the sales process, which are crucial aspects of making a living as an artist.

3. "Let the art speak for itself."

   • Some artists believe strongly in the intrinsic value of their work and feel that it should not require marketing or salesmanship to be appreciated.

   • I hate to tell you this, but “If you build, they will come” only works in magical realism films, a la Field of Dreams.

4. "I don't understand the business side of art."

   • This highlights a lack of knowledge or confidence in handling the business aspects, such as pricing, marketing, contracts, and financial management.

   • While the statement may be true, chances are you didn’t understand the “art side of art” when you first tried your hand at creative pursuits. Remaining ignorant is the only true failure.

5. "I don't want to compromise my artistic integrity."

   • Artists often fear that engaging in business practices will force them to make compromises on their artistic vision or cater to popular trends rather than staying true to their unique voice.

Here’s a simple tool that’s been helpful for me:

Often the surface is answer is about us looking good to others.

But do you really want your success and fulfillment dependent on the external validation of others?

Or what about giving control to an internal validating voice that is actually the programmed external voices from your upbringing?

Our parents and teachers can be living inside us, saying that they want to protect us, but keeping our dreams small. Don’t let their residue forever create resistance to your greatness.

A tonic for your ills:

A Whole Greater Than The Sum Of The Parts

Aristotle once remarked on the importance of balance and the "golden mean" – the desirable middle between two extremes. In your case, it's finding that harmonious balance between your professional life, parental duties, and writing aspirations. Each facet of your life can enrich the others, with lessons from parenting and work feeding into the depth and authenticity of your storytelling.

Remember, writing (and life, incidentally) isn't just about the end product, but the journey you take. Each word you write amidst your busy life is a testament to your commitment to your craft. In the recipe of your daily life, these moments of creation are vibrant ingredients, ever perfecting a story that's uniquely yours.

In French, chef = chief or leader

Be the chef of your life!

Step Into Your Story

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